Does this describe your marriage at all? Always making love in the same way,at the same time in the same place. If this is the case as in most marriages your lovemaking grows stale and boring, and may even diminish over time.
There are ways to improve your lovemaking, and the truth is that it doesn’t take rocket science to do it.
Think of this example, you’re always eating the same thing, for breakfast, for lunch and for dinner, day after day. Of course you would get bored and you wouldn’t look forward to your next meal.
But the truth is you eat something different every time, you change the menu from time to time. Everyone loves to eat different things from time to time, and this keeps you looking forward to your next meal.
Now imagine making plans to go out one night with your spouse, to your favorite restaurant or your spouse tells you, tonight I’m going to cook for you, your favorite meal.
You start thinking about the food you’re going to eat. Your mouth begins to water as you think about your favorite meal melting in your mouth. And you just can’t wait for the time to come, as a matter of fact, you look forward to it.
Making love to your spouse should be done in a similar way. Plan an intimate date and do it in such a way that you’ll be looking forward to it.
So how do you accomplish this? By finding ways to stimulate the five senses of the body. What does picturing yourself eating your favorite meal does to your body, it stimulates your senses. You can’t wait to hear it being cooked, to smell it, to see it, to touch it and to taste it.
Your lovemaking should be in the same way. Find ways to stimulate the five senses. Do this as a couple, communicating about what would stimulate your senses.
Here are some tips on how to stimulate your senses:
1) Your eyes:
Candles or dim lighting, it’s a known fact that people look better in candle light.
Clothing, wear things that will stimulate your spouse, don’t be embarrassed, have fun and don’t take yourself to seriously. Have a wide variety of clothing, don’t wear the same thing you used when you first got married 20 years ago. Unless your spouse asks you specifically to wear it. Remember variety is key, change the menu from time to time.
2) Your ears:
Soft romantic music, or a CD with the sounds of nature, the wind whistling, raindrops falling, or better yet make love in nature.
Sweet words, words of encouragement, Men tell your wives, wow you look beautiful or you look so sexy in that, Women tell your husbands things like, you look so masculine. Words of encouragement always help.
3) Your nose:
For your body, perfumes, colognes and lotions. Take a shower, smell clean.
For the environment, potpourri, scented candles, scented incense, make the environment smell pleasing as well.
4) Your mouth:
There is nothing wrong with involving food, some couples usually have a romantic candle light meal before a night of passion.
You can even include it, during your lovemaking, chocolate syrup or whip cream on the body. Use your imagination.
The Mouth can also include using sweet words and praises, in order to stimulate your spouse’s hearing.
5) Your touch:
Embracing, caressing, flicking your hands through your spouse’s hair.
Using body lotion to massage your spouse.
Your mind is the limit.
These are just some tips. Start planning with your spouse your own sex dates, communicate with each other and plan out how you will stimulate each others senses.
Change the menu from time to time: change the times, the places, the positions, the clothing, the lotions, the candles, the foods, the words you use, make yourself and your spouse look forward to what’s coming.
Applying all this to your daily married life will begin to create a spark in your love life, will strengthen your marriage and will only draw you two closer as a couple.
Wishing Your Marriage the Best.
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