Stop! Take a deep breath and realise that there is a reason why the hero in the movies begs his girl to have him back and it works. The reason is that it is the ONLY place that this tactic ever does work, but that most men are so wedded to the hope that it will work (a bit like they hope they will win the lottery) that it survives as an urban myth of how to go about getting your woman back in the movies. Forget it now and move on to the tactics that actually can work to save your marriage. You are married, and whether you are male or female you don’t have the luxury of turning your back on your partner or hoping that they will magically turn it your hero again. You need to get your marriage back on track, and you will need to put some work in to make it happen.
Luckily, the way to turn things around in your marriage is actually much quicker then the path you are on to divorce. You simply need to start appreciating each other again, and start seeing each other in the same light that you did when you first went out. When you first met it was probably passionate very quickly, or at the very least it developed into passion and love at some stage. You may have let it slip, but you can get it back. One of the immediate things that you need to do is to start talking to your partner properly again. Not just about politics, what is wrong with the world or your boss. But about all the juice of life stuff that used to make you smile together, used to make you laugh.
So, how can you go about getting your marriage back on track? How can you pull off something that seems like nothing short of a minor miracle to couples who may have been arguing and bickering constantly. One thing that you can immediately do is to sit down with your partner and each write down a list of what initially attracted you to the other person. Now, depending on the stage of the breakdown in your relationship, your partner may or may not be willing to do this. If not then you will have to try something else, but do your best to get them to agree as this is a very heartfelt exercise to commence with reconstructing your relationship and learning how to save marriage that you may have thought was gone for good.
Going back in time in each of your minds to your earliest attraction, you will quickly realise it was a time when you probably thought that you would love your partner forever, and couldn’t even imagine circumstances in which you would ever split up, because you were that close (how times change!) You can also accelerate your progress in improving your communications in the marriage by taking a look at this 1000 questions for couples review. This takes a look at 1000 different questions that you can ask your partner that will open up the channels of communication between you.
Once you have gone through this exercise then you will most likely experience a state change. Another way to think of this is what happens to you when in the middle of a massive rainstorm where you are walking outside, the clouds part, and the sun suddenly comes out. In the split second after the clouds have gone and the rain has stopped, the difference it makes to your mood is palpable. It lifts your spirits and immediately puts you in a more productive frame of mind for your walk. The same thing happens in your relationship when you ask your partner to think back to the good times. It literally makes the clouds part and the sun come out. I am sure you will notice the difference. It won’t solve all your marriage problems overnight, but it is at least a start and sometimes beginning is half done 🙂