Imagine a marriage, or any relationship for that matter, where both are trying to out give the other. If this situation was true then a lot of ‘things’ in the marriage wouldn’t matter because each one is trying to out give the other.
Now I know what your thinking…this would be impossible. I agree. But it could be done, shall we say, part time. The first step is to think about doing it, and then reminding ourselves to do it. So let’s keep this in mind so we try to be a giver as much as possible.