When you married, how did you image your life to go? Did you think you think about a beautiful place where you and your better half can live your life together? Maybe you sought the perfect kids, a truly perfect fight-free, fight free relationship, or maybe you wished that your partner always put you first, you wanted everything to be perfect. That will not really be a good thing though.
07.28.2011 Seattle, WA – Bailey Sorenson has only just been married and she and her husband has just gone through a rocky patch in their relationship. “It wasn’t a really perfect romantic movie life that I was eager for, but I do know now that I wasn’t exactly being sensible about what I expected. I was under the delusion that marriage was like in the romance novels I read, I was wrong as it really just isn’t. It is a lot more grounded and real, I didn’t realize the worth of that and was fighting it all the way through.” Sorenson also promotes a visit to the website – http://www.savemymarriagetoday.com/articles/stop-marriage-divorce/.
Perfection, or at the minimum the picture of it is a marriage killer, and blindly pursuing the representation of the marriage is among the most important reasons for divorce. If you are stressed out, sad, or especially disappointed since your marriage isn’t the way that marriages are shown in books or in movies, all I have to say is ‘Wake Up!’
Marriages will not be perfect, your will not be perfect, your spouse just isn’t perfect but it will not mean they are not beautiful. It doesn’t mean that your marriage is no less valid or that partner will not love you as much as they do. An imperfect marriage is a truthful marriage and just because you and your partner fight, it doesn’t signify that you have done something entirely wrong or that your marriage is on a downhill spiral.
Accept the marriage for what it truly is and if it does need progress, you should work together in direction of having it better. Set sensible, attainable, and if applicable, flexible goals. Beware of setting perfect targets or wanting to have perfect life due to the fact that if you do, there is a especially big chance that you won’t get it. That will without doubt turn into s, anger, and unhappiness which can eat at your marriage leading to its failure.
No one is perfect, perfection is just an illusion, and a especially dangerous image at that. One of the biggest tricks that a happily married couple is going to have is that they do be expecting perfection. Fights and arguments are just a part of it and even though the fights could possibly be big, happily married couples will know that regardless of their imperfections, at the end of the day they could still anticipate to be well loved and to have commitment. These are so much more essential and at the end of the day they are what can help a marriage last.
There are plenty of reasons for divorce and several of them can’t be helped, but shifting your ideals can. Beware of the ideals of perfection and figure out how to live at the present. Do not keep yourself from finding pleasure in something good just because you are hopeful to find something just a little bit better.